If you were waiting for the outspoken
Lydia Forson to say anything on the subject, then you are in for a
disappointmen. She wrote on her faebook page the following:
A
lot of people are on my case for not publicly giving my views in this
issue. First of all, I’m not obligated to always have an opinion about
everything, and even if I do, I’m still under no obligation to share it.
In this case especially where it’s extremely sensitive, I have to proceed with caution.
I never write unless I’m absolutely sure of what I want to say.
Contrary to what people may say, I don’t have the “I need to comment on
every issue to stay relevant” syndrome.
I empathize with the
victim if it’s true, and understand what she may be doing through, trust
me I do. And I know many other women have and continue to suffer in
silence. It is a very frightening road that many have had to walk alone
due to the shame and public persecution that often comes out of speaking
out.
To the alleged offender, I equally sympathize, because
there’s nothing worse than a false accusation. I have also been there,
where you’re judged before you’re given the chance to say your side. The
damage some of these allegations can do is irreparable.
Either way someone’s life will be ruined forever because of this.
So I don’t want to talk about the “alleged” victim or the “alleged”
offender in question. I’ll let the police and investigators do their
job. Because to be fair, regardless of what anyone may say we weren’t
there and no matter how much we may hate or love any of the people
involved in this case only the two backed by concrete evidence can
actually tell us the truth.
I’d rather talk about something else in relation to this.
Let’s talk about our attitude towards the whole idea of “rape”. How we
react to the victim, the offender and the events leading up to the
“act”.
Rape is a very difficult subject which can start a long
debate. It isn’t about how the victims looks, his/her willingness to be
in the presence of her attacker, his/her background, his/her lifestyle
or his/her past. It’s basically boils down to consent . And even in that
a victim can say yes, and has the right to change his/her mind. If by
making that known to the person, he/she proceeds to force
himself/herself on the other party, it’s RAPE.
Now I understand
how confusing this maybe, trust me, even for the victims themselves they
often question if they have been raped or not due to some of these
factors. alleged
A lot of their attackers, in most cases
genuinely believe it was consensual,because the big question often put
out there is” why were you in his/her presence “?( Watch for Coloured
Girls)
Especially in a society where no, always means a maybe ,
or a slow yes, or a I really want to do this but I don’t want you to
think I’m a slut so I’ll say no, but hope you’ll push further until I
have no choice but to agree,yes.
The statements from some of
you, especially the “educated” “know it all” “social media activists”
and ” I have the need to be heard ” people is not only frightening but
sad. You would think we would be more objective and less sentimental.
I’ve always argued that if you get in trouble in the country, your
sentence basically boils down to whether people like you or not.
If you’re liked, your actions will be justified.
If you’re not liked, let’s just say you will be sentenced to public
court,tried, convicted and completely humiliated to the point that
prison will seem like a luxury.
So lesson here… Make sure you’re liked at all cost.
You better like me
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Tuesday 30 December 2014
Lydia Forson On Alleged KKD Rape Saga
Publisher GhanaThings.Com
12/30/2014 05:41:00 pm
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