You can have attractive assets or you are among the ladies whose natural
endowment are on the average side and still beautiful. But if you don't
know how to behave, your man will run, sooner or later.
Sometimes, after a few fantastic dates you had with a guy you really
like, he suddenly stops calling and then it goes on and on with others
too. And you soon start trying to use your body to keep them.
If you check well, it could be that your behaviour was really
embarrassing for those guys and unless you take time to realise what
those behaviours are, good men will keep running away from you.
Do you want to know the things that make men run and how to keep your man?
Elizabeth Stone of Your Tango have listed things ladies do that scare men away from them:
Clinging To Him Like Static: While it might seem like spending
every waking moment together is fun at first, it WILL get old. It’s more
likely that he’ll feel this before you do. All good relationships have a
little space in them. Give him time to miss you and occasionally wait
for him to initiate contact. Keep your friends, hobbies and interests
alive.
Over-Communicating: “Hihihihihi” , “What are you doing?”, “How
about now?”, “And now? I just thought I would share what I’m having for
lunch.”, “I sneezed and thought of you!”, Ugh … just no. Sometimes we
blow past all reasonable boundaries when we’re excited about a
relationship. While it may initially seem cute to him that you’re
contacting him a lot, before too long he’ll start seeing you as insecure
and clingy. Remember, let him have some space so he's not chocked.
Nagging: It’s pretty much never a good time to start chiding him
about things he’s “doing wrong”. You might change his behavior in the
short term, but the cost you’ll pay in his resentment is large.
Emotional Outbursts: I don’t know a person alive who hasn’t at
some point completely flipped their top. It happens to everyone.
However, freaking out (and acting it out) is never good for your
relationship. If you’re prone to this, work on displaying your feelings
calmly. It never hurts.
Making Him Pay For Every Single Thing: I’m definitely a fan of
courtship, but remember that it’s sure nice to treat him also. Expecting
him to cover everything all the time is more than a little one-sided
and mean. It can also make him feel like you’re just there for free
dinner. There are other ways to reciprocate his generosity if you can’t
afford to pay the check. For example, with a home-cooked meal, wash his
clothes, a date that you arrange or little thoughtful surprises for him.
It should feel like you’re both giving to the relationship, not like
he’s paying for your company.
Acting Entitled: Don’t act like you automatically own his
weekends, access to his wallet or anything else. Be nice to everyone,
and don’t treat anyone like they owe you something.
Being Rude To Others: I realize that telling you NOT to act like a
jerk if you’re really a jerk isn’t going to create meaningful change in
the world. But for those of you who have an edge, know that it can kill
your budding romance dead.
Making Him Accommodate Your High Maintenance Behavior: High
maintenance behavior has a lot of different manifestations. Maybe it’s
not leaving the house without looking like a fashionista or wanting that
perfect, specific food item. High maintenance is a lot of things.
They’re not all bad, but you simply shouldn’t require him to suffer as a
result. For my sisters who look amazing all the time, go on with your
bad self. This is not about dulling your shine or putting you down. It’s
about... waiting time. No one wants to feel like they’re with someone
who disrespects their time or that you can’t go for a spontaneous walk
because you wore "This Ordinary Shoes". So get the beauty routine
figured out before he shows up to pick you up for dates, and dress for
what you expect to do together...
Emasculating Him: If you try to do this to a man, especially with
spiritual stuffs, you are finished if he by any means get to know about
it. Love your man with all your heart, you will enjoy him when he feels
you are truly in love with him and not after some material things from
him.
Making Assumptions: There are a ton of things to make assumptions
about when you meet someone new, and the vast majority are a bad idea.
Assuming that he’s on the same page as you, automatically thinking he’s
“up to something” or wondering if he’s already pulling away are all
problematic. When in doubt, have a chat with your man and make him feel
your love even more. Don't compete with him.
Predicting That “It’s Over” And Then Making That A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
Maybe he doesn’t call at the exact time or day he says he will. Maybe
things seem "off". The problem is that filling these grey areas with
doubt and mistrust will create a problem where there wasn’t one before.
Send him a loving message and remind him that you are always ready to
work with him to achieve your desires and most importantly, tell him "I
love you!" with a reassuring smile.
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Wednesday, 10 June 2015
Ladies, See The Things to Avoid if You want to Keep Your Man
Publisher GhanaThings.Com
6/10/2015 07:34:00 pm
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